There are three kinds of people reading this blog: people with no dreams, people with little dreams, and people with BIG dreams.  You can dream big, too.  Here’s #3 of my 8 success strategies.

Discover what you want.
Release your struggles and strengths.
Energize your mind.

Your mind is like an iceberg. A few days ago I wrote that oceanographers say 88% of an iceberg is below the surface while only 12% is visible. It is also believed that life success is 88% about changing our subconscious programming and only 12% about achieving conscious goals.

How do you energize the mind to accomplish your big dreams? Here are some quick strategies I’m using in my coaching.

Create a personalized success script. This is a written narrative of what you want and dream for in each area of your life. It is written with hypnotic words that penetrate your subconscious mind. I also help you discover and use your top five strengths from the Strengths Finder 2.0 assessment. This is your daily mantra that you say or listen to early in the morning, throughout the day, and before bed time to energize your mind.

Create a vision board. A vision board is a visual picture of your dreams. One coaching client is an artist and painted a collage with all of her dreams. Another has a notebook with magazine pictures she cut out and glued under each life category. There are vision board programs that you can create on your computer. Look at your pictures/vision board daily to energize your mind and achieve your dreams.

Create a Success Score Card. As an avid golfer, I’ve learned the importance of keeping score. Not just the final score, but every detail of my progress on every hole and every shot. Does this sound crazy? It’s not. The best golfers in the world record every shot of every hole of every course they play. These professionals know how many drives landed in the fairway, how many greens they hit in regulation, and how many putts per hole and per round. I do something similar in tennis when coaching my son. I track the number of first serves he gets in, backhand winners, errors, net points won or lost, and other key indicators that ultimately lead to winning tennis.

Let me ask you this…

Do you write down your life goals and track your achievements? This will energize your mind to accomplish your BIG dreams.

Coaching points:

  1. What keeps me from creating a success script, vision board, and success score card?
  2. What else could I do to energize my mind?

There are three kinds of people reading this blog: people with no dreams, people with little dreams, and people with BIG dreams. If you’re ready to dream big, here is #2 of my 8 success strategies.

Discover what you want.
Release your struggles and strengths.

32984rawhdfk4uuHave you ever tried to drive a car while accidentally leaving your emergency brake on?

You intuitively know something is not right and your forward momentum is hindered. That is exactly what happens when we do not let go of our struggles. We don’t need to push down harder on the gas pedal to go forward until we have totally released the brake.

I coached several people recently  who are stuck and unable to go forward because of fear, guilt, shame, doubt and ANTs (automatic negative thoughts.) How do you release your struggles? We will need to talk one-on-one to go into this topic deeply, but for sake of brevity, let me tell you–the secret is to “release your strengths.”

Do you know your strengths?

Your strengths are your natural talents, experiences, and skills mixed together. They are the rocket fuel to propel your life success faster and farther away from your struggles.

I highly recommend buying the Strengths Finder 2.0 book and using the code to take the strengths finder assessment. You will discover your top five strengths along with action items to achieve personal success.

Coaching points:

  1. What past or present struggles do you need to release?
  2. What strengths do you need to release into your life?
  3. Do you focus more on your struggles or strengths?

Brent O’Bannon creates momentum for outrageous success. He is known as America’s Momentum Coach for individuals, couples in business, and companies. For more information go to www.brentobannon.com and www.marriedtoyourboss.com.

There are three kinds of people reading this blog: people with no dreams, people with little dreams, and people with BIG dreams. Would you like to become a person who dreams big? In the next eight weeks, I’m going to share 8 success strategies to help you DREAM BIG. Here is the first:

Discover what you want.

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If you’re like many people, you may be more aware of what you don’t want.

  • I don’t want to be poor.
  • I don’t want to be lonely.
  • I don’t want to be in an unhappy marriage.
  • I don’t want to struggle with depression or fear.

Your mind is a GPS and will gravitate toward whatever you focus on. It is much more powerful to focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. One person I’m coaching feels that discovering what he wants is too selfish. Yet Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Many people are living their parents’ dreams. They have not allowed themselves to truly discover what they want.

Here is an exercise to help you discover your wants:

Write down 25 things you want to do. Then write down 25 things you want to have. Now write 25 things you want to be before you die. Now start writing what you want in each of these domains of life.

  • Ideal job or career
  • Ideal vision of your body and health
  • Ideal financial life
  • Ideal recreation/leisure
  • Ideal relationships
  • Ideal personal life
  • Ideal giving to community and world

Coaching points:

  1. Are you more focused on what you don’t want or exactly what you want?
  2. Do you have no dreams, little dreams, or big dreams?

Brent O’Bannon creates momentum for outrageous success. He is known as America’s Momentum Coach for individuals, couples in business, and companies. For more information go to www.brentobannon.com and www.marriedtoyourboss.com.

One coaching client was laid off last year and stuck contemplating, “What kind of work do I want to do?” Another person I know is struggling to decide if he wants to stay or move. My friend, a ghostwriter, has been searching for his ideal client.

He said to me, “It’s harder to decide on what you want than to get what you want.” I told him to say it again: “It’s harder to decide on what you want than to get what you want.”

That rings true for me and many of my coaching clients. When you know clearly what you want, then you will do everything in your power to get what you want.

Coaching points:

  1. Write down what you want.
  2. Verbalize to someone what you want.
  3. Get crystal clear on what you want.

I remember the excitement I felt a few years ago when my practice moved toward life coaching rather than traditional therapy. But I still get questions about the differences between the two approaches.  If you’re curious about what distinguishes traditional therapy from life coaching, let me break it down for you.

Traditional therapy:

  1. Focuses on relieving the pain or trauma of the past.
  2. Is based on a medical model that includes a pathology and mental health diagnosis.
  3. Views the therapist as the expert who prescribes treatment to fix the problem.
  4. Demands a doctor-patient type relationship that is sometimes artificial.
  5. Uses face-to-face sessions at 50 minute intervals.

Life Coaching:

  1. Focuses on creating your happy future by clarifying what you want in life. Coaching seeks to guide a person to create and design the life and lifestyle that you want.
  2. Is based on a strengths and positive psychology model. People are not viewed as weak or broken. They are held accountable to achieve their goals in their personal and professional life with their strengths.
  3. Views the coach as a cocreative equal. The coach does not have all the answers and is not above the client. The coach helps the client discover success and holds the client accountable to achieve their goals.
  4. Encourages the relationship to be casual, authentic, enjoyable, and without negative stigma. Both client and coach are energized by joint ventures and mutual friendship.
  5. Uses telephone primarily with some face-to-face sessions. Sessions can be only 30 minutes, 1.5 to 2 hours, or 15 minute laser sessions. You may meet weekly or monthly.

Coaching points:

  1. Are you or someone you know interested in learning more about life coaching?
  2. Do you need therapy or life coaching?

Memorial Day weekend is coming up.  Last year, I asked a group of men outside a local coffee shop if they enjoyed it and was surprised by the answers I received. One man blurted out “Yep!” Another commented, “Yeah, we had fun,” and an older gentleman–about 75–said, “I enjoy every day.”

Those words stuck in my mind. I felt his sincere appreciation for being alive today and every single day. He was basking in the early morning sunlight and having coffee talk with his friends.

Most of us enjoy Fridays, the weekend, and holidays but do we enjoy each and every day?

Coaching points:

  1. What relationships and activities do I enjoy each day?
  2. Do I plan my schedule with simple enjoyments each day?
  3. Do I express gratitude for the little joys of each day?

13276dbsk8cmoh5What is your subconscious saying?

Oceanographers say 88% of an iceberg is below the surface while only 12% is visible. Sigmund Freud theorized that our behavior is mostly unconscious.

Life success is 88% about changing our subconscious programming and only 12% about achieving conscious goals.

Writing, focusing, and achieving your conscious goals is only the tip of the iceberg. Your subconscious thoughts, beliefs, and patterns will either sabotage your success or be the instinctive power to life success.

That is why I’ve been coaching my clients to create a “Strength Script.” This script focuses on your top 5 strengths and becomes a daily mantra that strengthens your subconscious and is a guide to achieve your conscious goals.

We can create your Strength Script in 3 telephone coaching sessions. Email or call me if you are interested at [email protected] or 903-819-0301.

Coaching points:

  1. What unconscious thoughts, beliefs, and patterns are sabotaging your success?
  2. Do you know and are you tapping into your natural subconscious strengths for life success?

Brent O’Bannon creates momentum for outrageous success. He is known as America’s Momentum Coach for individuals, couples in business, and companies. For more information go to www.brentobannon.com and www.marriedtoyourboss.com.

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Are you focused on pulling weeds or planting flowers?

Have you noticed how you dread pulling weeds? This is a chore that involves sweat, a sore back, and probable stings from fire ants. It’s like facing the negative emotions, events, and people in your life. Though we need to pull the weeds, there is an internal resistance.

Have you noticed how your motivation increases when planting flowers? You visualize the outcome of beautiful color and sensational smells. You feel the joy, peace, and relaxation of sitting with your family and friends. You have created an oasis and a paradise.

Coaching points:

  1. What weeds do you need to pull?
  2. Most of all, what attractive goals and dreams do you need to plant in your life?
  3. Focus more on what you want in your life than what you don’t want.
  4. Visualize your goals and dreams with color, smell, and emotion.

Do you view life as swimming upstream or flowing downstream?

Many of us have been taught and instinctively believe we should swim against the current to achieve life success: “Success comes to those who work hard and pull themselves up by their bootstraps.” We easily believe the curse to live by the sweat of our brow.

Which way does water flow? (Hint–it’s not uphill.)

No effort is required for the most fluid substance in the world to flow downstream to it’s destination. It’s counterintuitive. It’s time for you to naturally start flowing downstream. Let go and flow to your life destination.

Coaching points:

  1. Flow in your strengths instead of fighting weaknesses.
  2. Naturally go around, under, and over obstacles in your life.
  3. See serendipity in daily destinations.
  4. Relax and enjoy the journey.

Playful balance–from A to Z!  The perfect alphabet for family fun.

A-Acting for fun

B-Balls and more balls

C-Create and join clubs

D-Dance around the house

E-Enjoy pets

F-Frisbee fun

G-Get outside

H-Hop, hip hop, hopscotch

I-“I Spy”

J-Juggling

K-Kite flying

L-Leaves, rake and jump

M-Makeover for fun

N-Noon time walk

O-Old pictures

P-People watching

Q-Quicken your step

R-Ring toss

S-Silly faces

T-Tickle each other

U-Upbeat attitude

V-Video workout

X-X and O (tic, tac, toe)

Y-Yawn and relax

Z-Zoo outing